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[Suzanne1967]

me again your all sooooo helpful 🙋💕thank you but any advice  re anything I can get to make my libido come back 😁😱 I just have the sex  drive of a cabbage 🤔 And I want it back  hubby v patient no sex 3 years but time to get sorted X

[Keepgoing]

I would say to gp and ask for testosterone xx

[Blakeygray]

I agree. NICE recommends testosterone for women who have lost /reduced libido due to the Menopause /hysterectomy. The British Menopause Society do too.

This makes for good reading,  I hope it helps.

http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/forum/index.php/topic,33249.0.html.

[CLKD]

Lay back and think of England!  Use what ever it takes, i.e. saucy magazines to encourage interest.  I got rid of the guilt when Himself wasn't getting it by going with the flow …….. twice a week and both of us felt better.  Now my libido is back 

[Annie0710]

CLKD it really isn't that easy when your libido goes

I was referred to by my fiancé as a 'saucy minx' before meno hit me.  It literally went to zero, porn didn't help, reassurance didn't help and personally I didn't want to 'lie back and think of england' .  I've always been a keen participant in our lovemaking and it showed that my heart wasn't it, lube helped with the discomfort side of things

Week 2 or 3 of testosterone and I'm getting back to my old self in the bedroom and so far not using lube

In fact I didn't sleep well last night thinking about sex (oh it brought back nice memories)

X

[Hurdity]

Hi there Suzanne1967 - you might want to get this topic moved to Private Lives - which is reserved for this sort of discussion  . You will need to ask Emma ( when you've made 10 posts because you can't pm until then - or if you want it moved one of us will ask Emma for you?

Are you on HRT? Testosterone alone would not be prescribed otherwise - oestrogen replacement to at least a medium level would probably be recommended by gynaes before prescribing testosterone.  Sometimes oestrogen itself is sufficient to improve thing although oral HRT (but not transdermal) can have a negative effect on libido through another compound in the body - so I've read and if I understand correctly.

What are your periods doing and where are you in menopause?

Hurdity x

[CLKD]

Did I say it was 'easy'?  The guilt I've had over the years: since 1977 : has been awful.  Fortunately Himself has been patient.  I knew it was hormonal as 3-4 days B4 each bleed I was sexually interested, but GPs told me that I was depressed  .  No talk of hormone therapy in those days  so we struggled on, using what ever methods raised a spark of interest.

I didn't want to 'lay back and think of England' but at least it got us where we needed to be.  I wanted to be the sexy person I had been 

[Sooze]

Suzanne1967,
Seen that you've posted that it's been 4yrs since you've had a period but that you are being investigated for bleeding now?  Not sure theres much you can do until this is sorted, however I've recently started Tibilone on the advice of my Gynacologist, and it's really working for me. 

Might be worth asking about once everything has settled?
HTH,
Sooze

[Suzanne1967]

Hurdity

Hi thanks I've been peri m since 36 struggled on with holistic stuff ... Started hrt estelle duet 4 years ago .. Started bleeding couple months ago intermittent .. So stopped hrt ASAP dr advice I begged gif something Pv as was desperate after they did smear on Monday ( and I'm not soft) but goodness me ! That's of course put me off bedroom antics e en more ! But as stated libido has just gone 😒😒 .. I'm a young 49 in my head I'm 21 😂😂 its v conflicting advice one gets really ...confused I'm a nurse by didn't do any gynae did dnears etc as practice nurse and routine stuff but I'm to be honest not up on hrt ...

But I rang the GP Monday to literally beg for something Pv pre biopsies etc next Thursday and e planned not only that but I truly have never felt so bloody awful !

Nauseous , tearful angry snappy tired headache burning up can't sleep the just us endless 😝 .....

I didn't feel this bad I'm sure 4 years ago 😩😩. Anyway at least now joining this forum I feel supported xxxxx

[ardee]

Try asking your doctor for Tibolone (Livial).  Don't let them fob you off - keep going back until you get an answer.

[Hurdity]

Hi Suzanne1967 - Livial sounds like a good option for libido and menopausal sympotoms if you are post-menopause. However I'm not clear from your posts whether you are or not - but I presume so if you started peri-menopause (with irregular periods) at age 36 and are now 49?

If you were on a continuous combined HRT - Elleste duet conti, then this does sometimes cause erratic bleeding and if it only recently started after not bleeding for a long time (years) then could indicate your lining has thickened on the conti HRT? It's good that you are being investigated just to check. If your lining has thickened then I presume you will be given a course of treatment to reduce it - but is not a reason to stop HRT.

As suggested you could then try livial, but also have you thought of a Mirena coil which keeps the womb lining thin and then you can add oestrogen as a patch or gel? I should add that I understand that oral HRT can have a greater effect on depressing libido than transdermal HRT, although some of the testosterone derived progestogens in some HRT types can actually increase it!

All the HRT types are listed at the top menu under Treatments/HRT preparations so do have a look.

Also you should ask for vaginal (local oestrogen) and have this on a regular basis to keep things healthy down there - many women need local oestrogen as well as systemic ( full) HRT.

Hope this helps and let us know how you get on

Hurdity x

[Taz2]

Sorry I'm new to posting in these things .. But it's been case desperate measures 🙄🤔... You've all been so kind and helpful .. It's hard eh 😞 But I m just so struggling ... In respect of moving the message to private lives of course if the messages needs to be moved no problem , I hope I've not offended anyone 😁

Hi Suzanne - just to say that you haven't offended anyone but if the thread is under Private Lives then it is only accessible to members rather than to the whole of the internet.

Taz x 

[Hurdity]

Hi Suzanne1967

So sorry to hear about your son - that must be incredibly difficult to come to terms with.

I hope the Ovestin starts to work soon while you are waiting for the biopsy and deciding which HRT to try next.

Hurdity x