I was made redundant last year after fighting for it for a year as I wanted to work for myself and needed the payout to get established. A few months later I had to stop working for 6 months as was too ill to carry on but, of course, I didn't get any sick pay and still had to pay for prescriptions and taxis to and from docs/hospital (as too dizzy to drive) as self employed can't claim benefits.
However, if I had still been at the company they would have assumed I was exaggerating the symptoms in order to try to get the redundancy more quickly and, knowing what they were like, they would have done everything in their power to fire me without pay! I heard they had doctors on their payroll, and their side, for these occasions... On the plus side they had some great private GPs on site who may have figured out my issues due to the extra time they have with you - who knows?
Men and women were treated very differently there, men were the adults (who could be trusted to work from home) and women were the children (who would obviously go shopping if they were allowed to work from home)... Get the idea? Whenever a man was off sick there would be no issue and no comment, as soon as someone announced a female wasn't coming in, the tutting, shaking of heads would start. Oh and this was meant to be an international forward thinking bank.
The problem with bringing in a menopause policy, is that it would be another reason to employ men over women. I guess it really should be the GPs who take it more seriously so they can sign women off and back up the seriousness of their condition. Signing someone off with anxiety is seen as an excuse by employees and you also have to declare mental health on some new job medical applications - although not sure if that is HR confidential for background.
If you're deeply unhappy in your job, do hunt around as there are some lovely jobs out there. I was very luck to get a part-time placement close to home to top up my income (after losing 6 months and I'm not great with marketing my own business!) and it was just through Googling about one day to see what sort of local jobs were on offer. It's easy (esp. with hormonal angst!) to fear making changes or earning less, but things never tend to be as bad as the worst case scenarios we come up with which stop us moving on.
Go for it and take the plunge! Work-life balance sometimes involves risk and taking a pay cut but things always work out in the end.
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