Justjules, you raised a very valid point yesterday so don't feel badly today. I have seen a number of very sarcastic, patronising comments on this site. Some people ride roughshod over others beliefs and can do so in a bullying, domineering manner. We all of us have to make difficult choices about how to manage our health at this stage in our lives, some of the decisions are taken out of our hands.
Whether we take the HRT, other medicinal or indeed also 'natural' routes, is a right of the individual and they shouldn't be mocked or pilloried for doing so. Indeed, when discussions of a political nature have arisen on this site; patronising, sarcastic, bullying remarks can also abound.
I do understand, that in any collective situation, there will always be some who will take it upon themselves to manage everyone, to unofficially police what others say and do. However, this is a wonderful site enabling a very wide range of women to help, encourage and support each other and also to offer advice according to their own experiences. Of course we need to avoid unscrupulous advertising taking place which doesn't benefit any of us and can be detrimental.
There has also been criticism on another thread about some women seemingly advertising Professor Studd. Subsequently, it would seem some members have been advised by Emma to stop discussing Professor Studd and his recommended treatment methods, this is following complaints being made directly to her by some members. Might I suggest, that these women aren't advertising but just rejoicing in finding a solution to their extreme health conditions. It is very easy to become evangelical about something that has revolutionised our lives, we can easily become over enthusiastic. The other thing to consider here too, is that by those fortunate enough to be able to access private health care, sharing the detail of treatment plans, the information is then open to everyone. Especially, as so many have discovered, GPs can be uninformed about treatment possibilities. I do agree however, that private health care shouldn't be necessary but it's a cold fact of life that it sometimes is and I can speak from experience here. However, none of us should be insisting others have to see an expensive London based specialist otherwise no help is available to them. That is quite simply wrong.
The rather longwinded point I'm trying to make here, is that this site is an excellent vehicle for women to gain support and advice, enabling us to better our experiences at this very very difficult stage of our lives. Can we not offer this support in a kindly supportive manner?
Elizabeth Rose, what a thoughtful and insightful post. I agree this is an excellent site. Im a newcomer ( blown in) call what you will, but I have been reduced to tears, in a good way, and overwhelmed by the support I have personally received. Some of my posts were dealing with issues I have a real problem with, and they were handled sensitively and with a lot of help and encouragement . I personally think the problem is down to the literal written word. When we are verbally speaking to someone we can use gestures, smiles, hugs, etc. I know thats what the little symbols are for at the top, Im sure there is a proper name but I hope you know what I mean, but sometimes, its just not enough to get the true meaning across.
Im very sensitive myself but I genuinely didn't see anything harsh in Huridty's reply to Linda, I took from it she was gently guiding her in the rules of the forum, maybe again, thats not how it came across to Linda. Freckle I love your post, and Dangermouse's, they are also so informative and helpful.
Im sending a group hug to everyone this evening, God Bles you all and thanks for your invaluable support and help
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