Yes, me too. Most definitely. The most frightening aspect of my peri rollercoaster has been how little in control I have felt. Most days I have felt like I was falling down a bottomless hole, trying to grab at something, anything, but everything just slipping through my fingers. Just so scary.
In November 2013 I went from being a confident, capable, happy-go-lucky woman to a trembling, panicky, feeble wreak -suddenly scared to be alone, scared of the dark, scared of opening post or answering the phone. Just unrecognisable from my normal self.
Is anyone familiar with Conran's book 'Heart of Darkness'? Well, the last sentence in the book perfectly sums up my perimenopause 'The horror. The horror.'
And it has been horrific at times. I always thought that my PND was the lowest and most scared I could possibly feel. Well, PND was a walk in the park on a sunny day, compared to my peri anxiety/depression.
And the very cruellest aspect of it all is when you get to enjoy a few days of feeling just like yourself again. You feel calm, centered, able to smile and chat naturally. Life has some colour again and music sounds good. There's no discernible reason for this blessing of a few good days. And whilst you breath an exhausted sigh of relief to 'be back in the real world again' there's part of you that is terrified of falling back down the hole again. So you never fully relax and you never fully enjoy the good days.
I have made a private pact with myself. Once I believe myself to be 90% recovered I am going to have a ceromonial burning of everything that reminds me too much of The Horror. So I will burn my mood diaries. The cosmetic bag I keep my medication in. The very old, large, cardigan I wrap myself in when I fill chilled. The adult colouring books and pencils.
I never want to recall this time. Never.