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[LadyJane]

Sorry to use the forum, but I didn't know where else to turn!
My anxiety levels are off the scale today - don't know why, it's just the usual level of stress and family life here, but I feel like I can't cope at all. Just want to scream and cry and give up.
How much longer will I have to go on putting up with the mood swings? Much of the time I can put a lid on it but occasionally it gets too much.
Son is home later today, daughter is busy getting ready for a weekend of socialising, husband busy with work as usual, so nothing is out of the ordinary, but I just want to run away and leave them all to it.
I want a cigarette and I haven't smoked for years, or a drink, but then I'd be useless, and I have to make a big family meal later. Parents coming round next week and I was so looking forward to seeing them, but now I don't want them to see me like this.
I'm ashamed I'm so full of hate and negativity and I just want it all to stop!
Sorry again for venting. Thanks for listening to this self-absorbed rant.

[Miss Lemon]

Rant away! This is the best place for you to rant and offload. We are all here in the same boat and willing to listen.

The anxiety is the worst issue, isn't it? I have periods of it and it used to be debilitating but doesn't get that bad anymore, so take heart. Are you on any HRT? If not, it might be worth a chat with your GP.

I highly recommend Lemon Balm for anxiety. You can get it in teabags, which, I find, relax me within minutes. It is also available as capsules. I love the teabags! I always make sure I have them in.

Please keep talking to us and let us know how you get on.

[Dandelion]

Sorry to use the forum, but I didn't know where else to turn!
My anxiety levels are off the scale today - don't know why, it's just the usual level of stress and family life here, but I feel like I can't cope at all. Just want to scream and cry and give up.
How much longer will I have to go on putting up with the mood swings? Much of the time I can put a lid on it but occasionally it gets too much.
Son is home later today, daughter is busy getting ready for a weekend of socialising, husband busy with work as usual, so nothing is out of the ordinary, but I just want to run away and leave them all to it.
I want a cigarette and I haven't smoked for years, or a drink, but then I'd be useless, and I have to make a big family meal later. Parents coming round next week and I was so looking forward to seeing them, but now I don't want them to see me like this.
I'm ashamed I'm so full of hate and negativity and I just want it all to stop!
Sorry again for venting. Thanks for listening to this self-absorbed rant.

Hi Lady Jane

Sorry that your anxiety levels are off the scale.
It's horrible, but hang in there.

You dont say if you are on HRT, do you use it?
Could you ask your doctor if you need a higher dose?

Sending you some love.
x

[zelda]

If you are already on HRT, try some exercise I find that helps with my anxiety, even just a 20 minute walk around the block.

You poor love my heart goes out to you, most of us have been in the same boat with the dreaded Menopause!

[babyjane]

Hi Ladyane, never ever apologise to us, this forum is here to be used and we are all here to support each other, and you.

Rescue Remedy is another effective tool to help with anxiety.  I have recently introduced my teenage granddaughter to it and it is helping her a lot so I suspect it could be the same problem at the other end of the scale - hormones.  She is just starting puberty at 13.

If you put 'anxiety' into the search box you will see a lot of previous threads about it, showing how much it is an issue for a great many of us.

Welcome to the forum 

[LadyJane]

Thank you, lovely ladies. Just knowing you're there and reading your words of wisdom is a great help!

No, not gone down the HRT route yet, except for my Mirena which is to deal with excessive bleeding I had for most of last year. If these feelings continue I might ask the doctor about some oestrogen HRT though.
I'll also look out for the lemon balm tea (never heard of that before!) and the Rescue Remedy - interesting.

Once again, thank you so much for your support. I've been out walking with the dog, and do feel a little better, so we'll see how it goes. Best wishes to all of you for a happy and peaceful Sunday!

[linz57]

LadyJane, I feel for you as I also get spells of intense anxiety these days and sometimes feel I can't cope with even everyday tasks. I'm postmenopausal now, I don't know if you are, and I'm on hrt which did used to help. However, after being on it for 16 months I feel symptoms returning, maybe I need to up my dose. Maybe you could try a low dose and see how you get on or failing that, try deep breathing for a minimum of 20 minutes if you can. Also you can get an app called Calm for a smart phone, tablet etc, that's  lovely and relaxing and can help to take the edge off the awful feeling awhile. Still, you may find hrt a better long term solution, the progesterone can make you more relaxed if you can tolerate it. Hang in there .

[Justjules]

Hi Ladyjane...welcome  . I am the Queen of anxiety and meltdowns so don't worry, you are in good company. I am post meno but the anxiety is still dreadful. Had to stop myself from going to a&e today, I feel so bad but I've had food poisoning since Friday so am weak and weepy and idiot husband has just ranted at me telling me I'm not ill and I need to stop pretending I am ..... very supportive as usual. I hope yours is better!
x

[dazned]

Thats aweful JustJules 

[linz57]

So sorry to hear that JustJules, that's the very last thing you needed. A bit of understanding and compassion are what's needed , but so many men are unable to provide that.
My other half doesn't have a go at me but he gets fed up and switches off. He just pretends he hasn't heard me or doesn't answer .....
I was always a fairly laid back person until I became post meno, now I worry about everything. Very  strange as I thought these things hit in peri, how wrong was I?

[Mojo61]

I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling with anxiety. I was in such a state that I had to go on anti depressants 8 weeks ago, and although I am still not "cured" I'm certainly finding things a lot easier to cope with now that the meds are getting into my system. I only take a low dose (10mg Citalopram) and I am nowhere near as bad as I was. Please don't suffer in silence, go and see your GP because there is a lot of help out there even if you don't want to go down the road of medication. I am 9 weeks into a 12 week course of CBT on the NHS and it has been fantastic (not sure if you are in the UK or not though)

Sending hugs x

[linz57]

How long did it take for you to start feeling an improvement Mojo61? My doc prescribed 10mg Citalopram for me a few months ago but due to a bad experience with another anti depressant I've been reluctant to take them. I don't feel I need an anti depressant, just something for anxiety but I realise the medics don't like dishing out benzos any more.

[dazned]

Not all AD s are for depression ! Some are specifically designed for anxiety 

[babyjane]

Citalopram and its sister drug escitalopram are designed for anxiety.  The patient info sheets covers Generalised Anxiety Disorder, Social Anxiety OCD and Panic Disorder for example.  I have found it has helped me along with a low dose of Beta Blocker.  they work best for me in pertnership with each other but everyone reacts differently to different drugs.

[linz57]

Ah I see, maybe I should give them a go and see what happens then. The AD I was prescribed some years back was called Dutonin and it made me go weird after only one. My husband had to call the doctor out to the house as I was acting strange and I remember feeling as though ice was flowing through my veins. Scary stuff !