I agree with Dana about the weight loss - unless you have an undiagnosed thyroid problem it should be possible! By the way well done Dana! I've lost about 8 pounds (was 10!) since last September but I'm only 5'1 and only a few pounds overweight.
Metabolism tends to slow as we age (decreasing testosterone, and reducing thyroid function are partly responsible) and also if we become less active our muscles decrease - reducing metabolism further. Fat distribution also changes as we lose oestrogen and become more testosterone dominant ( even though this too is decreasing).
If you carry on eating at the same rate you will put on weight so the first thing is to reduce portion size, secondly change the balance of what you eat and thirdly increase exercise to include some muscle exercises ie body conditioning. This has worked for me but I am now on a permanent "diet" of sorts. I know how to lose weight and keep it off now.
As Dana says you have to find what suits you. For me it had to be drastic. I cut out sugar ( mostly), reduced fruit and juice, reduced carbs (as in bread cereal patsa spuds, biscuits etc) drastically to only once a day at most, increased low fat protein, nuts and veg. Had lots of soup ( home made) and eggs, and nuts, do exercise classes. It goes without saying that most food is prepared fresh from fresh ingredients so no hidden nasties! Now finally around 8 st 11-12 - which is about where I should be for frame size, age and height.
I still have treats though ( especially now I have lost the weight) including G&T's wine, dark chocolate, and even cake - but only in small quantities and not every day!
Babyjane - I think if I remember correctly you are on thyroid medication which will mean if your TSH/thyroid levels are controlled your metabolism will be more stable so this could explain your weight staying the same without eating less? I know from my blood tests that my thyroid function has reduced over the years - my doc showed me the graph, even though it is not in the treatable range - so without doing anything different re exercise and food - I will put on weight - which is exactly what I've noticed - but probably not to do with menopause as such?
Hurdity x
PS Some progestogens cause permanent bloating which adds to weight gain - worse on conti HRT.