I've been really busy, and away etc so only just catching up with this thread which frankly I find of some concern.
I totally agree as most of us on here do - that many doctors are woefully ignorant about HRT and the menopause and a huge education drive needs to be done so that women receive the best treatment based on an informed appraisal of their medical history and current state of knowledge accessing the most up to date information and guidelines.
NICE recognises that this is a huge challenge and the medical profession is beginning the enormous task of changing practice from the top down and the bottom up as you can read here:
https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng23/chapter/Menopause-implementation-getting-started#the-challenge-communicating-the-long-term-benefits-and-risks-of-hormone-replacement-therapyIn the meantime the situation is less than perfect. OK so you can't get what you want, so one can stick two fingers up at the system and do your own thing - buy what you want - and get on with your life.
Personally I think this is not the best approach - although fine might be OK for an individual in the short term.
Firstly I think it does future women a disservice not to try to help change the system from the bottom up - little bit by little bit. Far better to educate ourselves and challenge doctors who are ignorant of the current guidelines and evidence, with well-informed information. I know this is not going to be easy but that's why we are on here - to help each other be more knowledgeable and confident, so that we can challenge decisions that are made about our treatment if we do not agree.
Secondly - I know the NHS is not perfect but it's damned good - and it is there for a reason. The system in Spain is completely different - I don't know how their health system works. However I think it is wrong to be able to obtain oestrogen without prescription over the counter without medical supervision - for obvious reasons. It might be a pain to have to get all this from the doctors in UK but at least we should be informed what the risks are, and can be reviewed medically, scanned, investigated etc if there are any concerns.
I know it is very kind and well meaning, but I think it is irresponsible to offer to buy oestrogen gel and send it to someone else and I would urge you not to accept this from someone else. Fine if you want to go down this route yourself and are prepared to take the risks, as Stellajane said - but as she also said this is not right. It is not the answer - we owe it to other women and those less fortunate (both financially or less articulate/knowledgeable) to try to change things here in UK and get those guidelines implemented by challenging doctors and asking for referrals where we can, rather than buying them gel!
By the way the same thing does not apply to progesterone as this is harmless even in large quantities so posting this to each other is OK (eg if you have some left over).
Hurdity x