That is AMAZING, Elizabethrose! Thank you so very much for sharing. This has helped me so much with other issues that I'm personally experiencing at the moment.😊😊
I like to think, in a small way, that reaching out on here helps with that helpful Oxytocin for most people BUT it's also made me realise how important it is to be mindful of how we reply to people who are seeking help. Forums can be good and bad. A good deal of them can actually perpetuate misery - either through hurtful comments or unhelpful, uneducated advice or encouraging people to feel hopeless (the misery loves company scenario that is too often present on 'support forums'). It's the nature of the internet - it's faceless and impersonal and is therefore no replacement really for interacting with real people who can offer real help and support.
I post very little these days - mainly because I'm dealing with a lot of personal issues, and because when you're stuck in a very negative mindset as I have been (and still slip into often to be honest) it's so easy to grasp on to the negative, therefore reinforcing my own negative beliefs. When you're feeling low, you only read what you want to read to reinforce feelings of fear and misery - whereas, when you reach out and allow others to help you in a holistic way the picture is much more balanced and you can be more objective.
I'm still learning........The reaching out for me hasn't been easy.
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And it's also good to know that by helping others, we can also effectively reduce our OWN stress. I'm sure this is why some cultures who have a close sense of family and community deal so much better with stressful life events than we do in the western world.
Thank you so much again for sharing! xxxx