My sister died at the age of 50 in 2002, leaving a son of 15 and a daughter of 16. She didn't get the chance to grow old. Obviously, I grieved, but also it may me face my own mortality. I am lucky, as I am growing older.
I have done a lot of things since then that I had been putting off till tomorrow ( including a trip round the world ) but also accepting myself and things as they are. When I start to stress, the thought ' I'm ok. It's ok.' come into my mind. I don't have to be someone making a huge impression on the world, just be kind to myself and others. I am less judgemental of myself and of the thoughts that drift into my mind, which in its turn help to make me less judgemental of others. I am calmer. When it comes to health issues, I do the best I can and trust my body to do the best it can. It's kept me alive this long, so it's not doing so bad!
And when really stressed? Listen to a good hypnotherapy cd, lying down and drifting off and coming to, revitalised. I have one by Paul McKenna on confidence that does the trick.
And Dulciana.... I have never met you, but you are one of my inspirations.
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