Unfortunately, there are many managers out there who haven't a clue how to manage. They appear to think that you have to bully people to get the best out of them, yet when people feel appreciated and valued, they do tend to do the best they can and more.
I worked for one head teacher who was a bully. She was responsible for my pregnancy!
It was find a new teaching post and delay having a baby for a couple of years or have a baby straight away. We opted for the latter.
When it comes to difficult menopauses, periods and pregnancies, it is easy for those who sailed through them to assume that it's a matter of attitude. They don't realise they have been fortunate.
When I was young I had very painful period pains. As painful as labour pains. My mum was very dismissive and called me a drama queen, until she witnessed the onset. My parents rushed me to the nearest hospital. Unfortunately it was a chest hospital...........but that's another story!
I'm sure we all have stories to tell.
My DH commented that boys should be educated about women's health issues at school. I think girls too. I was so unprepared. When I had those painful periods, I was so scared and lonely. Once I was supported, it was no where near as bad. The same goes for menopausal issues. I have support, therefore I cope. It's not sympathy that's needed, but more understanding, accommodation and non judgement.
