Trufflecat there is an NLP technique called anchoring which would be useful for you to draw on and yes its quick to use while you are cooking tea
. The only problem is that in order to master it you need to be in an emotionally resourceful state and when you are in this terrible phase thats not going to be easy.
When this phase passes however have a look at Hypnotherapy, NLP and Meditative techniques when you have a bit more space in your head. The tools I have in mind involve you either achieving a very calm and relaxed state or ( in the case of NLP) conjuring up a really positive memory which is then really strengthened by running over it again and again in your mind while stirring up very positive emotions to go with it ( called calibration) Sometimes tapping the hypothalamus at the same time and playing a piece of music which also ties in with this really positive and resourceful state of mind. Then linking them all together with a physical anchor which can be rubbing your tummy or pinching your thumb and fingers together, squeezing your earlobe if that's more discreet.
When you are in times of stress you use the anchor to bring back all those positive thoughts and feelings. If you are making tea you could play the chosen piece of music. If you exercise you can use the same technique of anchoring and music to conjure up how you feel when your body is full of endorphins and you feel strong and invincible. A song with lyrics that you can identify with will work best. Some that I have found effective for women are ... Katy Perry's - eye of the tiger. Diana Ross - I'm coming out, or Labi Siffre - Something inside so strong. I know that you are probably feeling a little too out of control to take any of these suggestions in at the moment but a good distraction technique to get you through today may be You-Tubeing some inspiring tracks.
Hurdity, thank you so much for your timely warning about the cohosh. I think the estrogen level is ok but its the progesterone phase that is so making every day life so difficult. Like Trufflecat I was feeling desperate.
