Hi, I joined the forum a few weeks ago after seeing a few doctors for lump and ache under and around left armpit and then ddidn't get a period so wondered and unsure if menopausal. I had appointment with a doctor very knowledgeable in menopause (my request) and my results from bone xray to rule out my fear of bone cancer has come back showing nothing and doctor says that could be hormonal. She asked me loads of questions and feels very certain that I am perimenopausal (unlike the last doctor who because I didn't have hot flushes said it's too early to say). This doctor has said at the moment I have some options. Wait and see, blood test although not completely reliable, hrt or herbal route to see if or how I respond. I'm going for bloods on Monday as I've nothing to lose and then seeing her a week later to discuss results and next stage. On that same day I've also an appointment with a herbalist doctor. Walking out of that appointment the other day was the first time in ages I felt good about myself. There was at long last an explanation as to why I'm acting and feeling like I am, and it's explained the lack of interest in sex in that it's ok, I'm ok to be like I am and not feel a failure in my marriage and my job. I now have something to focus on, embrace and to be positive about. although i'm holding on tight as im expecting a bumpy ride!