Hello Ladies, thank you for all of your replies - very weepy this morning & I know I need meds of some sort as my mental health is suffering.
Jedigirl, Shellb & Rebelyell: you are right - it would not be a good idea to take on TA work in my current mental state as I would not be ab!e to do my best for the chi!dren & they come first. I need something that is less stressful but I don't think what I have chosen is the best choice. I thought I was ready but I seriously have doubts now. The problem is, I need to earn money so I have to do something. Shellb - my manager in my old job appeared sympathetic initially to my face but she was anything but behind my back & I shall never forget the way she looked at me & spoke to me when I desperately needed to speak to her. She looked at me as if I was something nasty on the sole of her shoe & said she was too busy but then stood chatting in the corridor to one of her management colleagues for 10 minutes! I was just a number & a hassle to her after many years of working there without any problems.
Kathleen: thank you for your sympathy - just feel all over the place at the moment. I would just carry on volunteering if I could but I am unable to afford to. I think you have hit the nail on the head because I haven't felt right for a few years now & need less stress in my life.
Sparkle - I am definitely not good with change at the moment! Need something less stressful but I'm not sure what! I know I need to get used to the job but I honestly think I wou!d be better working in a smaller shop where I can help customers with enquiries (& complaints!). The irony is, I can actually deal with complaints calmly despite my anxiety because I did that in the hospital!
Dazned: meds - I always used to take an SSRI called escitilopram (Cipralex) which worked perfectly to stop panic attacks but it made the perimenopausal insomnia worse when it struck. I then had to take sleeping pills as well then they stopped working. Tried a tricyclic for a little while which helped me sleep but that then wore off & left me absent minded & 1 stone heavier (& constipated!). Now have another SSRI called Setraline to try & have already seen that the side effects include insomnia. I have valium & beta blockers for emergencies at present.
CLKD: It IS nervewracking sitting at a checkout - I thought I was ready for it but I think I need something where I am not stuck in one place all of the time. I can't help the customers in the way I want to either as time is of the essence. Something customer services related would be better. My next shift is on Weds at 7am (the store is 11 miles away so I am up at 5.45am). I am on 12 weeks 'probation' so I can't be moved at the moment. I get a 20 minute teabreak during the shift & there is no one I can discuss things with as they are all tied up elsewhere. Think I will just need to keep looking out for shop jobs in a smaller store closer to home.
Thanks again ladies.
xxx