We have never argued about money. We saved when necessary, never went 'without', paid off the mortgage eventually. We moved here in the 1980s and had intended to move to a house with more land but prices went up so we stayed put. I continued working until I was too ill. We have never had 'fast' cars, nor have we gone on expensive holidays; firstly due to anxiety and then I bought a
which meant holidays in the UK which we enjoyed.
By investing wisely we have a pot to enjoy. We had intended to move back to Wales but our hobbies are here. I could start again with making friends if necessary and would miss our neighbours for a while: I've done it all before
Groundhog - it is OK to spend your money on 'treats' especially if him indoors isn't communicating particularly well right now. As for 'wasting' money
……… I would consider waste being DH buying something that I can't share. I would consider waste if it were spent on drink or drugs
……. as for buying a boat, what's wrong with that? If you want to give to family members then do so now! because even making a Will doesn't guarantee that your wishes are carried out if the Will is challenged.
We have worked for our monies. Parents helped occasionally and have always fed us, taken us on shared holidays without us contributing. I lent a family member money many years ago and it was never paid back so that was a hard learning curve
: never again, we now use our money after discussion.
As an aside: how much money would you spend without asking your other half? for me it's up to £200.00.