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[babyjane]

What?  what did you think I meant 

we need a new mattress. husband prefers firmness, I prefer a bit of give (but not over soft).  It's going to be a tricky one and we will need to go to the local bed shop to try out several before we decide.

What do you prefer? medium, firm, orthopedic, block of conrete, hammock?  Just being nosy really 

[honeybun]

 

Well a soft one is not much use 

I don't like it too hard and definitely not orthopaedic. The only thing you can do is go to the bed shop and try and find something that suits you both.
Mind you I always feel a right charlie lying on a bed in the middle of a shop. 


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[purplenanny]

Good luck with that one!

You can buy beds that are different each side.....not cheap though

Very embarrassing trying them out in the shop. You never lay like you do at home 

[Dancinggirl]

I got a mattress that is not a zip together from John Lewis that has half in medium tension for me and the other side in firm tension for my husband (you can't turn it though) - it was expensive but I got it in the sale. You can get mattresses that zip together as well but they tend to be rather wide and expensive.  There are wonderful latex mattresses that come in different tensions - I bought one for our guest room and all our guests say it's really comfortable. There is a website that will do 2 slim mattresses you put together to make a 5 foot size - if you message me I will give you the link.  DG x

[babyjane]

that's very kind of you dancing girl, thank you but I don't wish to buy from a website.  We have a great local furniture store that we have used for all our beds/mattresses over the years and we will pay them a visit in the very near future.  Failing that we will visit John Lewis when we next go to our daughter's as we don't have a store near us. 

I was really just canvassing opinions about what people prefer in terms of comfort.

[honeybun]

Just behave when you are in the shop 


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[Gill Mojo]

My advice? Go to bed shops and bounce Nothing like practical, bums on, experience. I just bought a new bed and mattress; I got one of those memory foam doodads and I am amazed at how awesomely comfortable it is!. I'm on the large side and the mattress looked horribly thin, insubstantial, but I have had a few nights where I have woken up without bits of me in agony so it gets my seal of approval Have fun hunting!

[honeybun]

Do the memory foam ones make the bed hotter.?

I'm needing a new bed too and was considering the foam one.


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[Joyce]

We bought a new mattress for our bed about 12 months ago. It's a posturpaedic one, springs with a memory foam topping. It so so comfortable & breathable.  Hubby fancied one of the tempur ones, but it was exorbitantly priced, plus being foam would have had him in a lather every night. 

[babyjane]

I do find memory foam rather hot these days.  I used to have a Tempur pillow and it was great but as meno took hold I would wake with my neck and hair soaking wet.

Our KS bed was built in the bedroom so to change it we would need to dismantle it and as it was built to last, and last, and last.............we will make do with a new mattress.  Our current one is over 15 years old now and springs can be felt! 

this has all come about because the bedroom is being decorated 

[Gill Mojo]

I do suspect the memory foam of adding a little to the heat, but as I sleep... erm... let's just say nightclothes aren't an issue ..... and have the windows wide open all year round, pretty much, it hasn't made a vast difference to me personally, Honeyb

[babyjane]

ewwww, that sounds like bliss.  Part of the reason I spend some of the night in the spare bedroom is so I can have a 4.5tog duvet and the window open.  Husband is a cold mortal who not only likes a firm mattress but also a cosy duvet and the windows closed. Whose idea was it that couples have to sleep together? 

[CLKD]

Avoid orthopaedic beds as these are usually far too hard!  Memory foam is far too hot!

We turn our mattress - apparently there's a Spring side and a Winter one  ……. many years ago (about the same time as I had those curtains in the other thread) we purchased of a new mattress and it was awful - what I wasn't told in the shop was that there was a 60 day return option  .  The next mattress on our 6'6" x 7' bed is wonderful ……..

[getting_old]

Firm, and the current mattress (which we've only had a few weeks) claims to have memory foam cooling gel, however I can't comment as we put one of those egg box tops onto it plus a thick mattress protector (the only one I could find which was deep enough).
Our previous memory foam mattress lasted for less than 3 years of actual use so I'm not overly impressed by them but they seem to be the only options these days. We ended up temporarily using the old orthopaedic bed for a few months and that was great.

[Dancinggirl]

The mattress we got has a winter and a summer side but as I mentioned before we have to just top to toe it as one side is firm and my side is medium tension - it is good though.
If you do find your mattress is too hard then a topper can work wonders. I've tried memory foam toppers but they go flat really quickly and make me feel too hot. You can get latex mattress toppers and they last longer as they are more resilient and regulate the body temperature better.
Latex in natural, antibacterial( so bed bugs can't live in it) and, unlike memory, foam keeps you cool or at least won't make you over heat - which is rather important when menopausal. 
When buying latex you need to go for the better quality Talalay latex as it lasts longer. Dg x