Been to see my mum in her care home today, it is so upsetting. I phoned ahead to make sure the carers knew that I was coming so that she would be up and dressed. She was dressed in really lovely bright colours and, although she struggles to speak she said 'I knew you would be here'. I wheeled her out into the sunshine and remarked on what a lovely day it was and she said 'Yes, a lovely day for a cremation'
I said 'Who is getting cremated?' and she said 'I am'
it became evident that she thought today was her funeral, she said 'I knew you wouldn't miss my funeral'. She also thought my brother had committed suicide - last time I went she thought he was in prison. She is in so much pain, there is nothing of her, I can put my hand right round her upper arm, she is like a tiny bird. It is so cruel, she is only 80 but ravaged by Parkinson's Disease.
She was trying to take her rings off to give to me and was asking where my Dad's ashes were
I can't bear to see her in such pain and torment