Ever since starting my periods I have absolutely dreaded that time of the month, having suffered upset stomachs, horrific cramps, lethargy, gas, bloating, and more recently very heavy bleeding. I had a few years respite whilst on the pill but had to stop after suffering from breakthrough bleeding. For this reason I was actually looking forward to hitting the menopause as I rather naively assumed that the periods would end and a couple of hot flushes would be negligible in comparison. Then, after wondering if that time was now approaching, I started researching and now I'm absolutely terrified. I can't believe that I got it so very wrong!!! I just feel so bad for my husband as I've ruined so many things by being ill over the years and now it seems like he has even worse to come.
I know that everyone's different, but are painful periods an indication of a bad menopause? Is a bad menopause hereditary? My mother's periods were pain free and she appeared to sail through the menopause, although I do recall some severe mood swings when she was around 50, but she would never admit it.
Oh, I'm 49 and my periods have always been erratic however in the last 2 years they have been more erratic and definitely heavier. I hardly sleep, keep needing to wee, and tend to get hot in bed - that's probably gone on since we moved into our current house 4 years ago.
Sorry, that's so disjointed and confusing. I know that I need to read about the menopause and learn what I should / shouldn't do, but at the same time I'm scared to. Ignorance really was bliss!!!