My hubby was the fifth child and not wanted by his mother. She made it very obvious throughout his childhood.
His bags were packed for him on his 16th birthday and he was told that as he was an adult he would have to make his own way in the world.
He was serving an apprenticeship in his dad's factory at that point....they were not poor.
He chose to make the best of things, finished his apprenticeship and then went on to travel the country and then the world.
He is a well adjusted person, confident and very independent .
You are what you make of yourself. We can only blame our parents for so much but as we become adults then it's up to us.
I had a happy childhood, and then my dad died on my 19th birthday and I was left with a mother who could not and did not function for years. It made me grow up very quickly and by the time I got married at 24 I was a strong person....I had to be.
You can't blame the government for everything. No matter who is in power they want people to get into work and contribute. There is only a limited amount of money to go around.
People who are applying for PIP have an assement and if you are not fit to work due to ill health, then from what I can read the allowance is generous.
Mybhubby was made redundant three times and also had ill health. We just had to get on and do the best we could. You have to be really imaginative to make ends meet...we were and we did.
I know it's hard but we have to play with the cards we are dealt.
Unfortunately it's down to each individual.
There seems to be lots of help out there....
Honeybun
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Hi HB
I'm sorry your hubby was not wanted by his mother.
Some parents just don't like children. My parents said this when I was a kid, and I said "What about your own kids" and they said, they liked their own. They lied, my siblings lie about how awful they were, always threatening and too violent.
My Dad used to get us three girls pull down our pants and bending over the settee so he could smack us on the arse. The smack was not a hard smack, it was more the bare arse thing he liked. He didn't like women or girls.
My mum and sister used to side with him if he was horrible to me as an adult.
I'm more angry I never left home until 25years old, maybe I am a masochist and enjoy pain, but i am not aware that I am.
Maybe leaving home was what made your hubby strong.
I think I have done some real psychological damage by not leaving home, and my parents did not want me to leave.
I can't make it as an adult, I have made too many mistakes, fallen into too many traps, for instance, buying this flat with the breached lease that will take tens of thousands to put right, among other things.
It's just too hard. I am not learning or learning from my mistakes.
Honeybun, I am sorry but you are very wrong with your statements about benefit claimants.
You are believing the mainstream media propeganda about claimants.
Benefits street, and the daily mail for two.
It's not about getting people into work and contributing.
It is about attacking the vulnerable and poor.
That angers me. I did work, I did contribute, I deserve my benefits.
That is just propeganda from the mainstream media, taking away the blame from the banks who the government are in bed with.
Any coward can attack the vulnerable.
The DWP refuse to publish thes suicide statistics caused by the draconian workfare system. Frankly what you have said has depressed me a bit more.
There is not enough help.
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