Well it was a dreadful time. Xmas morning 5am phone goes. Clatterbridge Hospital on the Wirral.
My Dads dying now the thing was I didnt even know he was in hospital. Id sent his presents and card.
Son and me had talked to him Friday 14th November and he was fine but hates the phone so we said
Ring you Xmas day.
Seems 2 days later he fell and was taken in to hospital and his women went with him.
The hospital had no idea she wasnt his wife untill late on the 23rd December when after having a bad infection.
It was certain he wasnt going to make it. She came clean and said she was just a freind.
She said she knew hed a daughter in Ozz but didnt know where (LIAR) she didnt know if he had any family in uk.
He has a grandaugher a daughter in law 12 neices and nephews she knew at least 6 of their home adresses.
So it was a mixture of the Wallasey Police and a dedicated nurse who went to my Dads flat on X,as eve.
Got them to let her in while she searched for my adress she found it and at 5am Xmas day she rang me.
We spent Xmas day in shock we had it at my daughter inlaws and sons home all of us as its our Zekes 1st Xmas
On the photos I look like a stunned mullett. I rang and rang they kept saying give it a day daily till 29th Dec
When they said can you come now so we managed to buy flights on NYE and arrived NYD went asap to hospital
I spent 2 days with Dad before he died I dont know if he knew I was there but with in an hour he calmed down?
He was uncon and never regained though he did open his eyes once or twice. He went 11.15pm 2nd January.
That was just the start no will no insurance no funeral insurance a mountain of debt as he was selling his flat
Hed moved in to asst living flat and was trying to sell his own place. Estate agents didnt know where he was
Knowone did. Solicitors fights with Compton group and Santander I threatend via solicitor to throw the keys
Ans declare Dads death and insolvancy with in 6 hours they agreed to the lesser amount as dads flat in 21 yrs
Had actually gone down 15.000 pounds?
? We found and our solicitor hid some money in bonds not much
But enough to maybe pay back some to us via billing the estate for our $7000 air fares NOW tell me honestly
How many of us have to find at 60 with in 4hrs over 3000 pounds for airfares 1000 pounds for care hire and petrol pay 4000 pounds for a funeral then all the stuff that goes with it We had to redraw on our home.
Thank god even though 5 years ago we paid our mort off we kept the line of credit going or wed have been Fd!
Poor Bobbles had to go in to his asst flat he took over 100 rubbish bags to tip we had to get the flat cleared.
We cleaned it ourselves returned all his asst stuff to the gov depts got his pension and asst rent stopped
To do this we had to buy 10 death certs that alone was 100 pounds. Then his old works pension. Arrange a funeral that took 15 days. Get the Vicar bla bla bla. Go to solicitors banks building societies fight with solicitors
I lost 6lb Geoff put it on living on a diet of curry and chips. To cap it off I went to hospital with Bronchitis
PLus a rash that after tests ended up being stress dont moan to me about UK walk in hospitals BRILLIANT
In 2 hours Id seen 3 nurses had every examination saw 2 Doctors was given scripts and as Im 60 I paid nothing
In ozz Id probably still be sitting there YOU have no idea with all its faults and flaws HOW BRILLIANT UK NH is!
Had the funeral finally even managed to get him buiried with MUM and saw it done. Paid the stone mason etc.
Finally Id had enough couldnt cope anymore and was worried a bout my Geoffreys health so after 3 and a half weeks we buggared off for 3 days to Stratford Geoffrey even bought me a ticket to see Loves Labours Lost.
Of course back to Wallasey and reality more fights finally made my cousin power of attorney shes the solicitors clerk and we employed her Boss to look after the rest of the mess so roughly 4 weeks $20.000 we came home,
We are booked to go to UK in April as many might remember we were due to go last Sept and I fell we had to cancell it 48hrs before we were due to go now if that hadnt happened Id have seen my Dad Pots and pans hey!
Now we find that we couldnt not go to Europe in April it seems a parents death 3 mnths earlier isnt covered
And as wed pAID last August for all the hotel rooms flights in Europe etc and as I was insured they just mo ved the dates to April they wouldnt refund dont ask Ive no idea? So weve no choice but to go. At least everythings paid for except spends not that weve a mountain of that left god u have to laugh or ud scream!
So 5 days in UK instead of 18 not at home but in London area seeing the sites in a cheap but nice Royal Naval
Hotel (Im an ex wren we can stay) No car needed. Then off 3 days venice 4 days Rome 7 days Paris@Home Ozz
My family cousins etc were sad I wasnt coming but understand. I dont know if the solicitor will end up having any money for us to repay what we had to spend out I dought it. So one tip WILL and FUNERAL INSURANCE'
Make sure you have a solicitor all this would still have happened but with the Funeral insurance and a will
So much easier.
I go between being angry hurt unloved by Dad. To crying my eyes out but thats normal I spose
We have made sure since we came back to make appt with a new solicitor to make wills and Geoffrey to take
Funeral insurance it doesnt matter for me hed be able to sort it I wouldnt.
We came home to find the spa bust
Water everywhere and thanks $2000 to mend it sod that So Bobbles spent all weekend on his back in 34C heat
Using silicone to try to repair it if we cant we will just dismantle it and ditch it keep the motor as u never know
One day we maybe able to afford another one hehehehe. Then the Fridge in the garages isnt working itds not getting cold enough so new fridge NOT a chance tell you what when problems come its in Battalions.
Good news Zeke is walking he can at last say Nana and hes now in Daycare Monday and Friday so I dont have to look after him 2 days a week getting up at 530am to get 2 trains not getting home till 7pm at night
Im going on a wed lunch to look after Zeke so son can at last learn to drive. In june son will add a day to work
So from then I will look after Zeke Wednesdays all day but thats fine I said Id do that and Im happy too.
So Ladies what was your Xmas and NY like HOPE to god it was nothing like mine!!
I wish you all belated Happy Xmas and a great 2015 and wish only good things for all of us PLEASEEEEE XXXX
