Thank you, Freda and CLKD.
At the time, it was absolutely the right decision for me, and us as a family. I was very poorly, but without a diagnosis. My children were 6 and 3 and we were struggling with issues with both of them. We live in a small house, on a small income and the logistics just wouldn't allow for another child.
That said, it was still a terrible decision to have to make and isn't something that is easily talked about among friends and family. Even my GP told me I was "overthinking it" at the time, when I went to her in floods of tears to discuss options. When I rearranged a colonoscopy that I was due to have between finding out I was pregnant and having the termination, she accused me of making excuses and said that as I was having a termination , why not just have the colonoscopy anyway and risk it causing a miscarriage.
My husband bought me a Troll bead that represents 3 siblings for each of my pregnancies, but we don't talk about it. Every year, I remember the day I found out I was pregnant and the due date and wonder what if.
I think you are eight, Freda - the changes in my cycles and periods are probably related to age, as shown by the fact that I was able to get pregnant at the drop of a hat at 40, when I'd struggled previously. Maybe I'm letting guilt cloud things?
My daughter is on medication for her ADHD. She is doing ok, mostly, but it's still stressful at times.