Hello Honeybun.
I wonder if men have trouble putting themselves in someone elses position and that makes them seem inconsiderate. They think they are being helpful but they don't go the extra mile that would actually make a difference.
Years ago, when our children were young I asked my husband to look after them on a Sunday afternoon while I went upstairs for a nap. I was exhausted after a series of sleepless nights and I made it clear to my husband that I was desperate for a rest and didn't want to be disturbed, he agreed that I need to catch up on my sleep and said he was happy to watch the children while I rested. Well ladies, I bet you can guess where this is going. Sure enough after about half an hour my son toddles upstairs and needs help going to the toilet, then my daughter comes into the bedroom asking me to get her a drink. Oh, good idea thinks son, can Mummy get me a drink as well... When I go downstairs I find hubby sitting on the sofa oblivious to it all, happily reading the paper. Aaarggh! Although he was in the same room as the children and available to help them he wasn't being attentive so when they needed something they ignored him and came to find me. Even more annoying was that he hadn't even thought to stop them! The thing that annoyed me most was his belief that he was doing a good job of caring for them and giving me some time off. Again, aaarggh!
Thank you ladies, I feel better for that.
Take care everyone.
K.