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[CLKD]

9.30 a.m. BBC 1 - began this morning - anyone watch?

[pj44]

I was just watching it and was going to start a thread on the programme. I can relate to jules story. I too am so lonely for the reasons she says. Thou i do have children and i am so grateful to them as i truely dont want to think how i would be if i did not have them. I feel so much for people that are lonely because i know how they feel.

[CLKD]

The difference between being alone and lonley are vast! - not having someone to share with came over in the programme. Having worked with Youth Club groups etc. though, it's hard work to get a continual cover for opening up, locking the venue; re-ordening refreshment etc.. 

Also I can't 'give' any more 

[Limpy]

The difference between being alone and lonley are vast!

Yep - Sometimes being alone you feel less lonely.........

[bramble]

I live alone - no husband, no close family, no children, retired so no workmates. An ideal candidate for being lonely. But I enjoy my own company thank goodness and am only occasionally lonely. I do have to make an effort though to socialise - there are days at a time when I can go without talking to anybody. If I was more lonely I would make more of an effort to do things. It may be different when I am older and not so able to get out and about under my own steam. I may be more lonely then.
Bramble

[CLKD]

Being isolated due to lack of transport as we age is a huge problem.

[babyjane]

sadly it is possible to feel lonely in a crowd of people.

[Micky]

babyjane  you are right, it can feel/be lonely in a crowd of people....

I am now divorced so live alone and no children - I have friends but they are all married with families... I don't mind my own company & sometimes & quite enjoy it - but there are times when I miss companionship & have waves of incredible loneliness feelings ....Its always easy for people to suggest joining groups/clubs etc - but always going home to an empty house & not having anyone there can feel really tough sometimes ..

[CLKD]

I remember being at a party on 'his' side where he wasn't present - I turned round to tell him something and felt an enormous wave of loneliness 'cos he wasn't there 

The loneliest I've ever felt was when he drove away from leaving me in a Hospital ….. I could see the car from the top floor of the building and knew it would be at least 3 days before we saw each other again due to distances involved …….    - I can replicate that as I remember.

[grumpy2008]

I've had the programme on in the background a couple of times this week. As much as I feel for the people, I'm at a stage of life where I have to spend more of my time thinking about myself and the ones closest to me. I'm drained. Just watching the programme drained me!

But it got me thinking about 'community' though, and how we used to have street parties when I was a kid, or spent the summers in the neighbours gardens, or left the door open so that anyone could walk in... how times have changed. I also remember people walking in and out of our house, or my mum doing shopping for elderly neighbours. It wouldn't happen now, on our street! I popped round to see one of more elderly neighbours a few days ago and it was obvious she didn't want to talk  . I tried!

There are lots of reasons why some communities have broken down. Interesting programme

[CLKD]

It takes effort for those offering tea/buns/community regularly.  Someone in our village began a get together every month for people over 55.  She tried to have themed meetings which didn't appeal as I am not arty ……. a chat with cake was enough.  After 4/5 months it petered out ……. but she never told
me 

Anywhere that is large enough to hold such meetings requires paying for, as does the food/cake/coffee etc.. 

I haven't the energy to take on anyone else ……… it would raise my anxiety levels too much