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[mandy43]

Hi Ladies

Another of my moaning posts, but I think my family have had enough of it and I really need to get all this off my chest again.  I Feel Awful!  Just to re-cap, I'm 44, been peri for a few years and the hot flushes and night sweats started last year but once my periods returned, in a fashion, they went.  Main symptom, obsession, now is my boobs.  They have gone so big and feel like a couple of balloons.  They are sore on and off and I keep thinking there must be something wrong.  I know I have fibrocystic breasts because they are very lumpy but I keep thinking I have something serious, as I have trawled all the posts on here and hardly anyone mentions boobs as a main problem in the meno or peri.  I have dreadful thoughts and all I keep thinking is about what someone told me, and that was:  If you make it through your forties, your more likely to make it to old age... and It's like, never a truer word spoken!  I have become totally manic to the point I am planning everything in extra advance all the time, even down to my daughter is going for a sleepover tomorrow and I have had her bag prepared since Monday,,, what the hell is all that about.  I have had my presents for Xmas wrapped since October... this isn't me, I use to do everything at the last minute... nothing prepared in advance, lived life in the moment.  I keep asking myself, why am I doing this and all I can think is maybe I think something is going to happen to me and that's why I need to be so prepared... does this make any sense to any of you ladies?  Or, is it just me?  I just want these horrible symptoms  and feelings to end.  I don't take HRT and I never will, just the way I am.  But, if there are any ladies on here that are now out the other side and have been like this, please give me your advice.

[Joyce]

AW don't beat yourself up mandy43.  I've always been one to prepare things well in advance. At one point I had to leave myself notes to remind me what I'd done, where I'd put stuff, like wrapped presents.

Regarding the sore boobs. I got this after starting HRT, which I see you don't take. However GP suggested starflower capsules. I got some 1000mg ones, you only need one per day, so long as they have a minimum of around 250 of GLA. My ones had 220 of GLA. Took about a month, but boobs felt so much better.

[mandy43]

aah thanks cubagirl.  I take starflower for about a year now and evening primrose and vitamin e caps and they did help for a while but last couple of months they haven't.  I already had big boobs to begin with but now they're even bigger and I hate it.  They just feel like water balloons... bit like when you're pregnant.

[westie]

Hi Mandy43

Sorry to hear you are feeling so low. I knows exactly how you feel, I don't take HRT either and also have fibrocystic boobs. I got myself in to such a state about them that in the end I went to the doctors and she referred me to a one stop breast clinic where I had a mammogram and ultrasound which confirmed everything was normal for me. Although it was ( for me) traumatic having the tests, the relief I felt afterwards made me feel so much better and now that I know that my boobs are normal and what they feel like, I just check them once a month instead of every five minutes as before!


Sometimes it's worth getting things sorted out because anxiety is so debilitating.

Big hugs

W xx

[caz24]

Hi Mandy
I am really suffering with sore boobs. All through my adult life I've suffered on and off, usually before my period. Now I am in peri and my periods are all over the place and they're sore and swollen more often than not. It does get you down and just makes you feel generally rubbish. I take starflower oil and have done for months but it hasn't helped. In the past I've had medication and taken evening primrose oil but none of that worked either. If it helps I saw something on embarrassing bodies a couple of weeks ago and there was a woman with this problem and the consultant said that it was a good sign that they hurt as anything to worry about usually doesn't hurt. The consultant recommended evening primrose.
I have noticed that at the moment my boob problem brings on other problems, mainly feeling really tired (maybe the constant pain), stressed out and not wanting to socialise.
I'm not on HRT either. I wish I knew the answer x

[CLKD]

I used to wake with a deep feeling of dread and fear  …………. and as soon as I was awake I had to leap out of bed, sometimes as early as 4.30 ……...

[Ju Ju]

Obviously, hormones do have an effect on our mood, but also as we get older we start to face our own mortality. People close to us may die or have health issues, or we ourselves have our own health issues. For me, one of the saddest things about my sister dying was that she was unable to think about dying while she was well enough to enjoy living. In her words, " I can't go there." But not looking at dying doesn't stop the dread. It can haunt you. Can I recommend a book that has me comfort and lifted the fear and dread I felt? It is by a lady, who has had a near death experience. The book was lent to me by a friend, who also found comfort in reading it. I ended up buying my own copy to keep.

'Dying to be me' by Anita Moorjani.

[CLKD]

   ……..

When I was deeply depressed my Mum got to aged 70 and I had a deep feeling of dread that she would die 'cos that's the age people seemed to live until - she's still up and at it  -  aged 88 and 1 week old!

[Mary1962]

Since I've been peri-menopausal I've been getting the huge boobs too - I'm usually a 34A so a marked difference!  About 2 weeks after a period has finished they arrive and stay for quite some time.  Mine aren't fibrocystic though.  Combined with the other delightful elements of peri-menopause it's a jolly old time..not    I'm not on HRT either.