Menopause is never worth self-harming for, this is an excuse to do so. This Forum is not sufficiently 'staffed' in order to help this health issue and you need to speak with your mental health professional team about this.
Those suffering with panic about situations need to speak with the Consultant i.e. a gynaecologist for meno/period problems, a chest consultant for any chest issues or an orthopaedic surgeon regarding osteoporosis ………. MIND charity can give help to sufferers and there is a web-site for osteoporosis worries and another for ovarian cancer symptoms.
Anxiety rises at 'this' age with or without menopause problems, I think it's as we get older we become more sensitive = caring? Once the anxiety feelings take over, the sufferer really needs to visit their GP for referral if necessary or suitable medication to help.
Let us know how you get on with speaking to your GP. As an orthopaedic secretary it is important to be clear and precise with symptoms when discussing these with a health professional so that 'proper' care can be given.