Something that came to me recently is 'facts, not feelings' and I want to try and apply that when I find myself getting in a state with worrying and fretting over what might be (what if.....)
Trying to look at the facts of a situation instead of being consumed by feelings about the situation. In other words trying tot to fear and dread things in case they happen and trying to take an objective view of the situation in front of me.
Oh dear that's a garbled mess. For example travelling home the day after Boxing Day we encountered very heavy, stop- start traffic congestion. As soon as I saw the red tail lights stretching as far as I could see the panic set in and I grumbled, fretted, moaned and groaned for the whole extra 2 hours we were held up wondering if I was going to need a wee or whether we would be back in time to collect the dog or whether we would get home at all (illogical). these were my feelings. The facts were that our journey was going to take longer and be slower than usual but we would get home eventually, the dog was fine where he was and if I really needed a wee we could stop.
I waste so much physical and mental energy fretting and worrying about 'what if....'
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