Hi Kathleen,
A book that really helped me is called "The Happiness Trap", from it I have a notebook with the most helpful points and exercises I've written down and when I'm in an anxious phase, it comes everywhere with me!
The main thing that helped me is realising that trying to force anxiety out of me was impossible...the only way to settle it down is to accept it and then to use strategies to help it dissipate gradually. Anxiety, is like quicksand, if you struggle in it, you will sink much more quickly.
There are too many ways to do deal with anxiety to write down here...but for instance, one thing I do is to say to myself "thank you mind but I am not playing that game today or, what sort of person do I want to be? Someone who is independent and can go places on her own, enjoy life etc etc,, or I don't like the anxiety, I don't want the anxiety, but right now I accept it." All becomes clear in the book.
I also have to use valium (2.5mg) here and there when I feel like I'm going to descend further into panic, as it makes me feel so normal again! I never feel "out of it" on it...it just seems to switch off the part of my brain which goes into overdrive and I become a laughing, joking, conversationalist again!!
My anxiety was practically gone for quite a few months but it's reared its ugly head again in the last couple of months which has been a kick in the teeth. So I'm back to relaxation cd, exercise and reading my very helpful notes on dealing with anxiety.
SUZYQ - I've been considering asking my gp about prog every day....what are the initial symptoms you are talking about?
Thanks
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