I worked at a Dr surgery quite a few years ago and there was a single middle aged lady who cared for her mother. The surgery had alot of contact with them because of the mother who was bed bound and her daughter did everything because her mother would not have carers in
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Two weeks after her mother died the daughter came to the surgery for an appt and she was a few weeks later diagnosed with terminal womb cancer
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She lived for just under a year. I had a very long chat with her one day and she said her only regret was that she had spent the last 10 years of her life caring for her mother who she didn't even like much!! What could I say. She felt it was her duty, it was so so sad.
What I am trying to say is do your best within your limitations but don't totally sacrifice your life , be a bit selfish and think of yourself without guilt because no one knows whats in the future. sorry this is not a happy post.