I'm just wondering ladies if your life is like mine! Every evening my husband comes home from work very tired. I have explained before my mother had brain haemorrhage 2 years ago and I help care for her. It's not easy and I'm not very good at it. I struggle at dealing with my 'new' mother who gets confused and cannot walk. Anyway, because of this and other things, life between my husband and I is strained at times. He works very hard - too hard - so that he doesn't have to help me with my mother. He has admitted that. So he comes home puts his pjs on and gets his ipad out. Now I must confess I was the first one to be on Facebook etc and I am on my ipad quite often but women can multi task and I can be on my ipad whilst doing other things ( like now - I'm doing this, listening to the news and chatting to my daughter ). However when my husband is on his he can't seem to speak or even answer a question. He doesn't move for hours on end - I can see what he is doing - sukudo, crosswords so nothing dodgy going on. Some nights I realise we haven't actually spoken for 5 or 6 hours! It's not a strained silence and we are both comfortable but I'm beginning to think is this normal?? Just wondered how everyone else spends their evenings and whether my worryng is justified. I have tried suggesting going for a walk etc but no joy as he is shattered after work. My daughter says this is normal and that's how couples are these days. I walked into their home tonight and they were both on respective iPads. So what do you think? Or is it my menobrain overthinking yet again?