Oh, Duliciana, YES!!
When I feel well I can be supportive, but since not being so well I have taken a backward step. When my Mum rings about her latest health problems, I switch off or my husband fends her off by telling her I'm out and chats to her instead. It's not that I don't care, but... I wish she could be more upbeat. I don't want to hear about every little thing and about who has died. My children are doing well and I cope with any ups and downs. I paid my dues when they were children, particularly with my son.
Last year, I had an abusive phone call from someone I thought was a friend, who I been very supportive of. I had not been in touch for a while, then forgot her son's birthday, while I was ill. Her Mum joined in to say what a terrible person I was and that I wasn't really ill! It still hurts even though I know they are 2 people in pain. It made me realise that I wasn't strong enough to be there for other people at the moment and should be around friends who are kind and caring.