Thank you all so much for your replies. It is so helpful. My oh is a debit of a dinosaur albeit a nice cuddly one lol. But yes I do have to spell things out and having read your replies I can see I am not alone. Our life had changed and like you honeybun I don't cope too well with the change so I suppose I am hyper sensitive and feel to need I have some kind of control over my life. I probably expect him to just know what needs doing but he clearly doesn't. He does the ironing ( he is ex navy ) but he doesn't do much else unless I leave a list. Apart from taking the bottles to the recycling bin
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And anything to do with electrics, the pond and the cars. I think I get tired and grumpy and then when I come home and find him on his ipad and there is loads to do, I flip! Compared to what some women go through my life is good. I think the lack of intimacy doesn't help - he gets grumpy and so do I - we have probably all been here and I think for us anyway when there is intimacy he is far less tetchy.
Today has been another mad day. It's half term so I help with my sisters boys too, I took my mother to get her glasses sorted and everything with a wheelchair is difficult sometimes. Or maybe it's me - I need a sense of humour - need to let it all wash over me and think and focus on the positives in my life. But the meno doesn't help - my husband asks when will it end and I'm not sure about that one. Soon hopefully - thanks for allowing me to share all this with you ladies - have a lovely peaceful Easter
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