Hi lila
I think we have discussed before?
When you were on gel or patches, were you on the conti type ie that prevent a bleed? It could well be that the progestogen was making you feel tired, and at your age especially I can see why you would not want to have this all the time.
Have you tried or considered an HRT type with a monthly cycle so that you would get a bleed? Then at least you might feel good some of the time. If you are progesterone intolerant thought you may still feel tired while on this part of the cycle - or when you change back to oestrogen only, but perhaps you would not get migraines?
I use Estradot 50 mcg (very small patch so no rubbing in) with utrogestan on a 6 week cycle - but I am 60. As dancinggirl says this sort of combination should be least likely to produce headaches and you would maybe only feel tired some of the time - which is what many women feel like with monthly periods throughout their life anyway.
I agree with all that's been said - you really want a higher dose of oestrogen at your age.
I don't have much information to hand re migraines and HRT - but just what is on this site - which doesn't say anything more than Dancinggirl has already told you! Here it is anyway - on A-Z of menopause and medical conditions
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/atoz.php#GlossMMigraine
Migraine is often triggered by hormonal fluctuations and therefore may occur around the time of a period. Such migraine may improve at the time of the menopause. Some women find that migraine may be triggered by the daily hormone fluctuations which can occur with oral (tablet) HRT so the transdermal (patch or gel) route is usually preferred with a history of migraine. Please don't worry about moaning - this is the place for it - and we can hopefully share our experiences and suggestions.
Hurdity x