I suppose us experienced ones should talk about it more to younger women, but would they listen, or even think it applied to them? I know I certainly wouldn't have listened. It's a sign that you're getting old(er) and no one wants to admit to that, and most people think “it won't happen to me†anyway.
I was totally unprepared too. I was convinced that all that happened in menopause was that you got hot flushes, because that's all anyone (men and women) makes jokes about. No one ever told me that my insomnia would be so debilitating that I would go for days on end with no sleep at all, and that I would end up taking diazepam (which I am still tapering off). I was also totally convinced that I would never take HRT because I'd been conned into believing it was "dangerous".
How do we change all this? I honestly don't know, because often times other women can be our worst enemies. I found that with my own friends. Most of them (according to them) never suffered at all, so I was made to feel like a freak because I suffered so much.
It's just so typical that issues that women have to deal with are often downgraded, but if a man suffers erectile dysfunction that's a completely different and very serious thing. However, I definitely can't complain about my GP. She has been wonderful.