I am happily married, except I have not had sexual intercourse for some years due to my lack of libido. This is not a new problem, but made far worse by menopause. As a young woman, I assumed marriage was out of the question, but then I met my lovely man. I sought help from a wonderful psychotherapist, who specialises with sexual problems. I do have emotional issues and I have very low testosterone levels, which is difficult to get treatment. I want it treated so I can sort what is physical and what is emotional. I've been prescribed Vagifem, but can't put them in! I have never shared this apart from the therapist and my husband. I feel ashamed and embarrassed.