I can relate to this topic imensely!!
My son can too - when he was in his mid teens he would panic about needing a wee whilst walking home from school - which meant he would go just before he started walking, then almost half way home would panic and run back to the school to pee again!!
when he told me i made him an appointment with the doctor who sent him to a specialist - they said such a lot of it is in the mind - the very fact he was not drinking much during the day was making it worse, and when he did drink it tended to be fizzy, which makes an already over sensitised bladder even worse. apparently it 'contracts' if its almost empty - giving the feeling its very full....
retraining of the bladder is needed...drink MORE not less, and try not to go the instant you feel like going - practice indoors of course - he did well - he still is a bit panicky on long journeys but lasts the course.
I started to have a similar problem a few years later - and was on a coach trip to Austria when it got really very bad - every coach stop meant a desperate run to the loos - the coach itself had a loo you could use if needed......i tried not to......nightmare!
you have my utter sympathy!
i retrained myself to a certain extent now....i noticed that if im home, pottering about, i honestly rarely use the loo - maybe only three times a day!! (not including when im asleep)
but the minute im going to be out all day - thats it! every hour at least ill insist on a loo stop - i barely need to go - but my mind tells me i do.
Im sure you use them already but using tena ladies are a great comfort to me - they make me feel like i can relax (no and not pee myself haha) and enjoy where i am even if i have the 'feeling' that i need the loo! (I rarely do - its all in my head not my bladder)..
thank you for sharing your story Gilaray it shows yet again how we are all going through the same kind of things together.
Anxiety being the biggest symptom of all (see my tinitus post)
Jem x