I'm pleased to hear that so many of you are disillusioned with Christmas!
Like you ER I'd love to go abroad for Christmas, but husband won't hear of it. I'd also do some charity work if I was alone, as I reckon working in a homeless shelter with lots of different people would be much more fun than just the four of us sitting watching the telly and eating, and I'd be doing something for others worse off than myself which would be good for me too.
It sounds like I don't appreciate my kids but we're together 365 days a year, even on holiday mostly, so there's no reason to look forward to being with them at Christmas; they're not children any more. Maybe if and when they leave home it will be different. That's it I suppose, Christmas is the same, same, same, year in year out. Unlike you CLKD I wish I did have somewhere to travel to, instead of being stuck in the house all day, though I do try and go for a walk on Boxing Day. I'd love to have somewhere to visit, or have someone visit us!
Yes Gileray, the time up to New Year is a no man's land. That's another thing: you say that you're Jewish; even people from other faiths or no faith at all feel obliged to join in to some extent, though I suppose nowadays Christmas has very little connection with Christianity.
Pixie, it is an emotional time. You think of the past, grieve for what you've lost, or what you've never had and will never have. All those adverts showing the “perfect†Christmas just make any sadness you feel worse.
Taz, I don't think it's morbid to want to visit your parents' grave if it gives you comfort. Many people do that at this time of year. I never do because my home town where their ashes are buried holds no happy memories for me , I have no-one to visit there and I can't bring myself to go to their grave. I think I'd break down, start crying and feel my grief raw all over again. Some people may say that in that case I should go and do just that, to let it all out, but I can't.
Thanks for listening and giving all your opinions everyone.