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[Dennydo]

He has finally realised that saying 'it a natural process' DOESN'T HELP!

[NikkiDUK]

A lot of us are very lucky! My hubby is very kind and patient even though I drive him to distraction with all this. I don't know what I would do without him.

[Essexragdoll]

He is always the voice of reason and is a calmng influence in our relationship when I lose the plot. The best thing he has done for me recently was to surprise me with two tickets to Hong Kong this year so we can go on holiday with my parents, our son and his girlfriend. 

[Judith57]

About three years ago, I suddenly became very unwell, a dreadful pain in my neck, insomnia, joint pains, feelings of panic, fear and just not being able to cope. I wondered what on earth had happened to me, genuinely contemplated suicide and desperately wanted my life back. I didn't recognise myself. Looking back now, I realise it was the start of menopause although I was still having regular periods. I ended up sobbing in the doctors surgery one day and was prescribed amitriptyline for my sore neck and insomnia, nobody mentioned menopause although I was 54.

My partner lives 130 miles away and I remember vividly calling him at midnight one night to say he had to come now as I was 'frightened'. He must have wondered what on earth had happened to the strong, feisty woman I used to be. Anyway, bless him, he drove down the A1 in the middle of the night and arrived with me at about 2.30 am. He came in and asked what was wrong and all I could say was 'I don't know but I'm really frightened'.

[Millykin]

Oh that is so sweet! I know my DH would do that too. He is my Rock espiecially the last 3 years. We have been through so much as a family lately and I just love him too bits. Might not show it when having down days but he is so supportive.
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[GeordieGirl]

He has finally realised that saying 'it a natural process' DOESN'T HELP!

Is that before or after you smash the plate over his head?

Just tell him how sympathetic you'll be when those testosterone levels decline and he has to reach for the viagra 

GG x

[Bomber]

He massages my body which calms and relaxes me, soothes my pains and makes us re-connect as a couple. Sex usually follows so its a winner for us both.

[GypsyRoseLee]

My husband doesn't talk much about menopause, but the few times I have wanted to talk to him he has really listened and reassured me that I will be okay. He's always very quick to notice if I'm feeling low or anxious. Like I said he won't usually say anything, but he will suddenly offer to make me a cup of tea or rub my shoulders or suggest we book a night away in a hotel.

He tells me he loves me a lot, and that I'm very beautiful, even though my mirror tells me I'm nothing like the 21 year old he fell in love with. He still seems to find me physically attractive which really helps boost my ego when I'm feeling middle aged and frumpy.

While we were away on holiday he casually mentioned during conversation with our friends that he felt very lucky that he was still very much in love with his wife after all these years. It embarrassed me but I was so touched too, as he's usually only ever romantic in private. To the world at general he's always very jokey and a typical 'bloke'.

I'm quite a proud person and I hate him seeing me so low and fragile, so I try to hide my feelings from him. But I shouldn't as he has only ever been very kind and understanding, even when my behaviour is quite irrational i.e. on Friday night when I was feeling especially low and anxious he was happy to sleep with our bedside light on, even though I know he HATES sleeping with the light on. And the next morning he go up very early to take our DS to his cricket match, even though it was my turn, so I could rest. And on their way home he picked up a take away so I didn't have to cook dinner.

I don't know what I've done to deserve him. He could have had his pick of girls because he was so attractive with a great sense of humour, and always very exciting to be around. I'm so glad that he chose me.

[Sausage]

Passed me the wine! 

He's 11 years younger than me but very understanding when I just explained what was happening to me.  He has been very sweet.

[LynC]

My hubby is so understanding and patient, I can't praise him enough. Cup of tea in bed in the mornings or breakfast in bed when I've had a bad night. Shopping and cooking for me when I'm tired. I couldnt wish for a better man   .  Mind you its early days yet , I havent started mood swings 

[LeeJane]

My husband is understanding and supportive but with the mood swings I am having lately, I could quite happily choke him! 

His horrendous crimes being -

breathing in an annoying way
eating in an annoying way
walking in an annoying way
talking in an annoying way

 

[LynC]

 

Yeh even mine has those days! 

[Louisa]

He listens, he supports me at the docs, he's good at explaining stuff when I get all muddled etc

[Kate50]

Paid for private treatment!

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