I'm definitely a "bah humbug." In fact, that's what my friends always call me!
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OH and I would ignore it completely if it wasn't for my mum, who at 93 still loves it all. Have felt like that for years but it became much worse when my only brother died in the early hours of Xmas day a few years ago. The next couple of years, Mum spent with her sister, which rescued me from having to acknowledge it at all (apart from buying them both a present) but last year, she didn't feel up to going away so spent the day with us. I was dreading it but time has thankfully worked it's magic on my feeling of bereavement and we managed to get through the day OK. The previous couple of years I had dreadful IBS and couldn't eat, let alone cook. I'm feeling a bit less scared this year, having survived last year relatively intact! Haven't yet decided whether to do the same as last year - have Mum here for lunch and then take her to visit m and f-i-l or try having them all here for lunch as we always did before my brother died.
I think that it's for Christians and for children and as neither scenario includes me, I'd really rather let it go by un-noticed. I suppose it brings back too many memories of happy childhood Xmas's with my brother (and later his son, now also sadly dead) and I want to move on from that now.
I'll do my usual thing, I suppose. Buy some cards from Oxfam for those distant relatives and "friends" I never see or speak to, buy presents for Mum, Auntie and 3 good friends (all of whom love it!) and maybe a little surprise for OH if I can think of something - we usually agree not to buy presents and treat ourselves to what we want together.
This thread has made me realise that it's nice not to be actually dreading it this year so that's quite positive really!
Bette x